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Watched superbowl while gorging like a pig! Why am i so addicted to Food? If i only knew how to write romantic poems, i would write tons for my love FOOD! Glad Colts won, they deserved it, esp after beating patriots. I am not much into americano football. yo gusto futbol! the real sport! lol..i worked for ESPN during summer break. I took calls and sold ESPN mobile to fans. It was always awkward when those die hard football fans would start up with football stuff and i would be like uhhh yea so yr phone costs........haha. Watched UFC on Saturday at pinnacle. It was exciting seeing americans get beat up by these foreign peeps. Me and other brown guys were like yeah..not that i have anything against ingles peeps. Am abt to hit the sack in a while. Just thought i would write something else other than class stuff in the blog. I used to be a blogger in Xanga a long tym ago, when i was 18 and uber hyper but i was dunzo by the tym i start uni. Gettin old!

when emotions are high and trust is low

One thing that stuck with me from this class was that when emotions are high and trust is low one shouldnt use the autobiographical response. APIE is not appropriate when emotions are running. This is true in a sense because when i am mad-angry or reall hurt, i dont want some to starte asking questions or interpret the situation. I want them either to sympathize or more better show empathy with me.
Other things are we discussed were the encoding and decoding message. I am pretty sure everyone's gone through this experience where you meant something in a text, phonecall or email but the receiver takes it as something else. Thats the reason why LOL, ;) ;p were invented. I didnt really understand the conscious/unconcious competence thing before but i read a post from someone here abt the stinking issue and its clear to me now. The worst is the unconcious incompetence where you have no idea of what's wrong with you and have no idea how much impact that has on other people. I'd rather know what i suck at or know why someone's pissed at me.I dont know if that made sense! haha its been a long day for me trying to catch up on my hw and stuff on a sat nite!!! Ciao

Empathic listening vs.Autobiographical responses

Alright, here goes my first blog. I've been slacking in posting blogs but i was kinda confused about the subject material taught in class. There's so much that i've missed, i dont know where to start.
there are 5 level of listening:
1. Ignore
2. Pretend
3. Selective
4. Active
5. Empathic
I am a selective listener, and its not because i like to. I've been thinking this for a long time that i might have ADD. I am constantly in and out and have a hard time focusing. However, if its something important then i tend to get into active listening mode. Active listening involves APIE,
A-Advise
P-Probe
I-Interpret
E-Evaluate
This was kinda surprising because i tend to do this a lot. I am a good listener and good advisor. I love taking the situation and analysing it from all angles. When someone comes to me with problems i dont sympathise with them easily. I try to turn the situation around so they can see for themselves. If only i could use that talent on my own problems.LOL. Empathic listening is used when trust is low and emotions are high. This doesnt come easy because a lot of times people are empathic if they've been through the same or similar. For example i could show empathy for another non-member struggling here in school.
Lastly, the 4 elements of good I-statments are;
1.Observation
2.Interpretation
3.Feeling
4.Outcome

first post..

am finally into the bloggers world, not that i wanted to but i had to. This is primarily for my communication class. We will be blogging about our day's work and discuss what we learned. Cool eh?