Empathic listening vs.Autobiographical responses

Alright, here goes my first blog. I've been slacking in posting blogs but i was kinda confused about the subject material taught in class. There's so much that i've missed, i dont know where to start.
there are 5 level of listening:
1. Ignore
2. Pretend
3. Selective
4. Active
5. Empathic
I am a selective listener, and its not because i like to. I've been thinking this for a long time that i might have ADD. I am constantly in and out and have a hard time focusing. However, if its something important then i tend to get into active listening mode. Active listening involves APIE,
A-Advise
P-Probe
I-Interpret
E-Evaluate
This was kinda surprising because i tend to do this a lot. I am a good listener and good advisor. I love taking the situation and analysing it from all angles. When someone comes to me with problems i dont sympathise with them easily. I try to turn the situation around so they can see for themselves. If only i could use that talent on my own problems.LOL. Empathic listening is used when trust is low and emotions are high. This doesnt come easy because a lot of times people are empathic if they've been through the same or similar. For example i could show empathy for another non-member struggling here in school.
Lastly, the 4 elements of good I-statments are;
1.Observation
2.Interpretation
3.Feeling
4.Outcome